The Power Of Assumption
The Power Of Assumption
A while ago one lady had unfriended me on Facebook. I assumed she either could not control her FB notifications and was annoyed by my posts, but overall, I would respect someone's free choice as I expect others to respect mine.
I organized many fun events this year, and obviously, was unable to invite her as its technically impossible to invite someone to the event, who is not your FB friend.
Then one day came when wanted to share with her about a special event for ladies that I was organizing. I contacted our common friend and explained the situation that while we would love to have the lady over, I can't invite her to FB event due to our unfriend status.
To my surprise, in a short time I received a very heart-warming letter from her, where she sincerely apologized that she had no idea she removed out our FB friendship. She, on another side, had been also assuming that she was left her out intentionally from my/our events, which created some unwanted tension and more assumptions.
This story have been resonating with me today, reminding the recent class on Mindfulness. Our entire class was dedicated to the topic of Assumption and Truth. "Don't believe everything you think", our wonderful teacher told us. Do you know for a fact if this IS a fact or a truth?".
This episode is not unique. As I was thinking about the recent situation that happened in one of my Facebook group (Amy/Zina story), I realize that people ASSUME things their own way, and no one cares on checking out the facts. Its easy to be trapped into your own wrongful thoughts, instead of checking out on the facts and be free.
The story of assumption starts out small, slowly it turns out into a snowball that can grow into a bigger, deeper, conflict. Then it traps in innocent and confused people, who then take sides or make their choices, based on the SOMEONE'S ELSE ASSUMPTIONS, also assuming that those assumed stories are true.
And during that journey of assumptions no one dares to stop, pause and think:
"Don't believe everything you think. A thought IS NOT a fact. DO YOU KNOW FOR A FACT THAT THIS IS A TRUTH? Is this TRUE?"
We are the ones who give the Power to Assumption by feeding her with untruthful thoughts. I hope this small note helps you to notice them, work on them, and live happily ever after.
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